First things first. If you believe that you are the only one dealing with issues related to
sexual sin, you are gravely mistaken. The closer you get to God, the more
the devil will pursue you in this domain. God made us as men to be leaders,
to be fighters, to be strong and courageous. None of these traits are
exemplified when men delve in sexual sin. If you have bought into the idea
that pornography is a victimless act, think again. God knows best, we reap
what we sow. Get on your knees and pray that God would open your heart to
these messages below. Take time to study the Bible references within them
and pray that God renews your mind through His unchanging Word.
The addictive pattern of pornography can be defeated, so consider these tactics in your fight against evil:
GOD'S WEAPON - God's Powerful Word in the Sword of the Spirit
[2 Timothy 3:16-17, Ephesians 6:17]
DUDE CHAT - Trusted men will keep you accountable as you confess your sin
WILLING SPIRIT - A Proactive attitude with planned measures to keep you out of situations where you can be tempted
[1 Corinthians 6:18]
DEPENDENCE - In the end, you can do hundreds of things under your own strength, but if you do not rely on God through fervent prayer to deliver you, you
will never win because the devil is a roaring lion seeking you out.
Here are a few practical ideas to help you to be proactive against inevitable temptations.
Remember, it is NOT OK to flirt with sexual sin in your own mind.
You act out of the things in your heart and mind, put a stop to it there first. Divert your attention, this is the one place
that you must be contantly aware of all the time.
Restrict websites that cause you to stumble from your Home WIFI router. Sign up for Family Shield for free at OPENDNS.
Remember, that this is just a tool, the human heart is evil and will find ways around this, it is up to you to update the settings
to make sure you are protected in your own situation.
Use a password that is impossible to remember so you have to write it down and give the password to a trusted friend to be accountable to.
Restrict websites directly from your cell phone carrier.
When you are not at home, your phone works on your Cell carrier's signal, so you lose your home WIFI filters. Call your Cell provider and ask them about their own Smartphone web blocking features.
Smart Phone App Restrictions, blocking any app you like for a child or yourself.
This process is different for Android and iOS. For Android instructions, click HERE. For iOS instructions, click HERE.
Send all websites that you visit from any device to a trusted friend or your wife using software called Covenant Eyes.
This software forwards all websites you visit to someone else and keeps a detailed log for them to monitor.
Throw out your Smartphone completely, or give it away.
If you are still tempted, cut off your Smartphone, Jesus says this in Matthew 5:29.
Plan your days and project the times you will be tempted and ask God to help you avoid them.
This takes some proactive work, write this down on paper and devise a plan of attack.
Assemble an accountability group (DUDE CHAT), no more than 4 total men.
Must be the closest of trusted friends. Meet with these men every week or every other week and be real with them about your sins. Any masks worn here will only be fooling yourself.
Good Christian counseling is a great resource for guidance on this.
Check out the FREE counseling provided by Cielo Vista Church
in El Paso, TX. Click
here for information.